Double Possession–Punctuation Lesson

I always pause when faced with a possessive construction that involves two people. Do you add the apostrophe “s” to both names or only to the latter one? Somewhere along the line I learned to put it on both names, but I was never confident about this usage.

Then the other day, I received an email message from my favorite and most trusted editor Anne in which she wrote this: “Andy and Connie’s address.” I quickly dashed off a reply asking her to tell me the rule for this double possession construction, and here is her answer:

If two people own something together (it belongs to them as a couple), then you only use the possessive for the latter one. If two people own equal shares of something separately, then both get the possessive; both also get the possessive if the items are separate.

Patricia is Andy and John’s sister.
Chris is Andrea’s and Skylar’s mother. (not the best example, maybe, but I’m trying to show that this construction comes in handy with step-families)
We went to Connie’s and Jack’s party (i.e. we went to Connie’s party and then we went to Jack’s party).

No more pauses on this one for me. Now I can make my mark (or not) with confidence. Or can I? Shouldn’t “party” be “parties” in the last example? Better dash off another email.

Writers Group Guidelines

transparent_roseLast time, I wrote about the challenges of maintaining a committed writers group.  I promised that in the next post I would list the guidelines that have proven effective in my writers groups. Here they are:


  1. We agree to get our pieces to one another at least two days in advance of meetings.

 

  1. Our protocol for responding to pieces is as follows:

 

  1. Readers come to group having read each piece in advance and prepared written commentary to offer the writer to supplement verbal critique.
  2. Readers discuss each piece for a predetermined amount of time while the writer listens and takes notes after which the writer is invited to participate.
  3. Readers discuss the piece saying the writer or the narrator or the writer’s name, but not using the pronoun you.
  4. Responses begin with what is working in the piece, specific places where language is exciting or full of energy, images that are sparkling, writing that is fluid, etc. Sufficient time should be given to discussing the merits of the piece before turning to critique.
  5. When pointing to places that don’t work well in a reader’s opinion, the reader is as specific as possible. We offer suggestions with the clear understanding that the writer ultimately decides what will work in her piece.
  6. Writers listen carefully to the opinion of others, recognizing that this is simply one opinion in many and that others, including the writer, may view the work differently. Writers take what is useful and leave the rest.
  7. Writers needn’t defend content, style, or word choice. Critique is simply meant to give one reader’s response. The impulse to defend comes from protectiveness around our work but can also be a signal that something deeper needs to be communicated on the page.

 

  1. We put writing first. We are not an emotional support group. Our discussions come from a writerly perspective. We agree that if a conflict among members arises it will be managed with honest self-examination and one-to-one communication as the first option and a separate full group business meeting as a last resort.

 

  1. A full group business meeting will be called separate from our regularly scheduled meetings to make major changes in our guidelines. Temporary or minor changes can be discussed at the close of each regular meeting.

 

  1. We agree to keep our criticism fresh, focused, honest, and generous. We all wish to grow as writers.

 

  1. We will have quarterly retreats that will particularly focus on exploring craft and technique as well as developing the level and perceptiveness of our critique.

Please let me know what you think of these guidelines or if you have additions, questions, or other considerations when it comes to developing a protocol for a writers group.

 

I Love My Writers Group

I can’t say enough good things about my writers group. They are kind but astute critics. They are dependable both in putting writing first in their lives and in making our group meetings a priority. We celebrate one another’s successes, be it publication, finding just the right title for a piece, or winning a contest. We are generous with one another too, concerned about each other’s comfort at meetings or challenges related to getting to group. Like I said, “I love my writer’s group.”

Finding a committed group of writers was not an easy thing. During my first creative writing workshop in 1990,  I discovered the value of getting feedback and encouragment from fellow writers. For this reason, several of my class members decided to continue meeting after the class ended. However, that group lasted for only six months. That was the start of my experience with short-lived groups.

For the next five years, I worked doggedly to convene groups of writers–anywhere from 4-6. Each group would started out enthusiastically and gradually diminish until I was the only one left. The longest any of these groups met was 6 months. I was frustrated because I’d read about successful groups and wanted to be part of one. But I was getting gun-shy, thinking that either I didn’t know any writers with same the level of commitment to a group as I and/or that I was doing something wrong in the way I organized such groups.

After my fifth group faded into oblivion, I suspended the urge to start again and simply went solo for over a year. One day, I was talking with a friend about my wish for a group, and she mentioned another friend who was writing who might be interested. I thought about it for a week before finally calling this woman. She was game, and we decided to meet for coffee and talk about what we were looking for in a group. That coffee date was the start of our “group of 2.”  For 4 years, we met twice a month for an hour and half at 7am in that same coffee shop.

Writing Group

Then we decided to expand our edges, and we each invited one writer friend. Both accepted and that group meet for 2 years. We were a dynamic foursome, and it was during that time that I completed my first book as did 2 of the other members. Then sadly my original partner decided to move out of the area and another member had health issues, so we were down to 2.

Since it had worked before, the 2 remaining members each invited one writer to join us. That group never jelled as nicely as the first group and seemed to limp along for a year until 2 of the writers dropped out including the one from the great foursome. Summer was coming and the remaining writer and I decided to organize a summer group of mostly teacher- writers who liked to use summer to pursue their writing vocations. Big egos in that group caused the most contentious group I’ve ever been a part of and by the end of summer I was deeply disheartened.

It took some fast talking from the women who had helped organize that group to convince me to try again. But I’m glad I did. This time we started with a large group of 8 writers in September and by the following summer we were down to four. By fall, 1 of those had dropped out but 2 more joined. The five have worked together for a solid year, though at the beginning of this summer we lost a member to a cross country move.

I’m glad that I’ve consistently made the effort to keep a writers group going.  Having the support of other writers means a lot to me. Next post, I’ll offer our group guidelines for your consideration.  In the meantime, let me know what your experience has been with writers groups.

Writers Conferences & Festivals: Why Go?

Yesterday, I put together a registration form for the 2009 Medocino Coast Writers Conference. This morning I read an article in Poets & Writers (May/June 2009) entitled “Conferences, Festivals Taking a Hit.” The juxtaposition helped me answer a question I’d been asking myself: Why do I need to go to yet another writers conference?

Conferences tend to be an expensive venture, what with registration fees, travel and accommodation costs. Why put out all the money, especially when finances are tight, so tight that many conference organizers are canceling this year because they can’t pull together sufficient funding to offer a quality conference?

Wouldn’t my time be better spent staying at home and WRITING? Shouldn’t I simply focus on practicing my art, cultivating the craft? What more can I learn from mentors and teacher? Shouldn’t I “put writing first?”

These are the questions that come up every time I think about going to a conference. However, the thought that the economic situation might curtail the option to go to conferences put these questions in perspective.

Going to a conference puts me in touch with other writers, a connection that fertilizes my motivation to write and offers essential nutrients for growth. I’ve gone to conferences alone. I gone with a writer friend and once my entire writing group attended a conference together. I’ve been to conferences that were one day, three days, or a full week! I’ve signed up for festivals where I have worked with a single teacher in a workshop context and others where there were a variety of presentations to choose from. Sometimes presenters were big names like Natalie Goldberg or Dorothy Allison, but more often they were lesser known writers who had published one or two genre books or had been successful getting published in literary magazines. I’ve even taken my turn as a workshop presenter. Conferences usually have a bookstore venue and and most important, there are social gatherings, like a dinner, a tour, or a wine tasting.

I come home from such engagements energized and motivated. The subsequent spurt of the productivity and growth is exciting. I have made new friends, and the expansion of my writers network has more than once offered unforeseen assistance in later endeavors. My notebook is filled with new ideas, techniques, and books to read.

My registration for the Mendocino Conference is in the mail.  Yes, I’m ready for time among writers. In fact, I think the time is overdue.

Reading to Write

Writing teachers  frequently tell their students, “One must read broadly to write well.” During my Mexico vacation I was reminded of how much I rely on reading to learn about writing. I read all the time, but during my vacation I read differently–more poetry as well as doing a lot of catch up on reading publications like Poets & Writers, the Writer’s Chronicle, and Lambda Book Report. The shift sparked the synapses of my brain to attention.

Reading poetry is a lesson in language, image, metaphor, and structure. It is a slow, savory kind of reading the enlivens my mind and makes me want to take more risks. Reading publications that have to do with writing is instructive, inspiring, and occasionally daunting.  I particularly enjoy reading author interviews and profiles for the window they open into the lives of other writers. I read with a pen, underlining and starring points I want to remember, books I want to locate, words I want to record in my quote journal.

Judy GrahnLambda Book Report, Spring 2009 had an interview with Judy Grahn by Julie Enszer (a cyber friend who is an excellent poet and extraordinary critic). Julie asked Grahn “What contemporary works do you find notable and/or inspiring?” I think Grahn’s response is worth summarizing in a post about reading to inform writing. Here’s what she said:

  • I read very locally; I read my students’ work and I always learn from them;
  • I listen to people’s stories;
  • I study the ancient texts; I really like to go to direct sources;
  • I go online and read leftist articles and the testimony of soldiers coming from Afghanistan;
  • I get a lot of inspiration from song lyrics.

What kind of reading do you find notable or inspiring? How do your choices compare with Grahn’s?

In future posts, I’ll continue to report things that I learn about writing from reading.

(Judy Grahn photo from http://www.itp.edu/academics/images/staff/jGrahn.gif)

Time to Write: 5 Suggestions

The other day when I went for my physical, the nurse practitioner asked how my book was doing. After listening to my report, she said that when she retired, she was going to write. She said she had all kinds of ideas for a book. “Why wait?” I asked. She had the usual reasons, all of which boiled down to not having the time right now.

Time is an issue the comes up again and again among writers. Yesterday, I listened to a teleconference on book promotion with Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul) and Steve Harrison (Radio-TV Interview Report). Jack told the story about the round tuit. A motivational speaker carries a round, wooden token in his pocket with the word TUIT printed on both sides, and when folks complain about not getting around to it with regard to their dreams, he hands them the token and says, “Now you have a ROUND TUIT. Get busy!”

This morning, I woke to a Write Free Newsletter in my email inbox. The focus of this month’s newsletter is how to make time for our creative lives. There is a cool advertisement in the newsletter for a planner called “Plenty of Time.”The truth is that we all have the same amount of time, and it’s up to each individual how he/she uses that time.

spectacles.gifI can’t say that I’m an expert at making time to write, but here are FIVE suggestions that work for me.

  1. “Put Writing First!” I heard these words at a writing conference years ago, and they are seared in my brain. I can’t remember who said them. It could have been Natalie Goldberg or maybe Carolyn See or maybe someone less well known.  It doesn’t really matter! Remembering to write BEFORE I do anything else ensures that I make time for writing. Each morning, after I set the tea to steep, I grab my notebook or boot up the computer so I can write.
  2. Blogging, email, and letter writing COUNT! It’s OK with me if I don’t work on one my creative writing projects as long as I write something every day and first thing. To be good at anything, you have to practice, so I make sure that every time I write, I give attention to craft. Does the piece flow? Are there vivid examples? Am I using sensory detail? Have I managed to slip in some figurative language?
  3. Join or start a writers group and meet regularly.  Membership in a writers group means that I have to get something ready for submission every two weeks. Sometimes I start working on my submission the night before it’s due, but I always make time to get something ready.
  4. Write reviews. Every time I read a book, I write a short review to post on both GoodReads and Amazon. Writing a review forces me to think about the artistic merit of a book and articulate my thoughts in words. This is writing practice as well as a consideration of what makes for good writing. Writing the review becomes a study of craft.
  5. Make my own greeting cards.  Rather than buy a birthday or anniversary card, I make cards for friends and family. I keep a collection of construction paper, glue, stickers and old cards to cut up. Designing the card is a creative exercise, and I always write a personal message inside. Sometimes it’s a poem, but it may simply be a few well-thought sentences to honor the person and the occasion.

What do you do to make time for writing?

Why he writes . . . He being Paul Lisicky

I know I lucked out in graduate school when I ended up in a seminar lead by Paul Lisicky. The man is not only an exceptional writer, he simply rocks as a teacher. I learned so much from him that I felt it was imperative to note his influence in the acknowledgments when writing my book.

mfa_lisicky.jpg I religiously read his blog because he takes me places that I’ll never otherwise go . . . especially to the streets of New York City and to a music scene that is simply foreign to my ear (except for when he digresses on Joni Mitchell). Recently, he was in the Bay Area and he did a photo collage on his blog of a bunch of Eichler homes that tickled me to death because I dream of having a atrium like those in the buildings this real estate developer designed in the 1950s. Paul is really into buildings which is pretty obvious by the title of his second book, a memoir called Famous Builder.

But what I really want to share with you is one of his recent blog entries called “Alive with Current” in which he addresses the question: why I write! Please go read it . . .

It’s spectacular writing! It will make you feel alive! It will make you want to sit down and write.

Sharing the Wealth: GoodReads

transparent_roseLast summer, fellow writer Kate Evans turned me on to GoodReads, a website where readers befriend one another and share book titles and reviews. It’s also a place where authors can maintain a page about their published works and invite friends to events.

Here is a review that I just posted on Good Reads for The Story of Edgar Sawtelle by David Wroblewski.

Wroblewski has certainly managed to mix an unusual array of elements in this thoroughly enjoyable book. Employing a setting in the lake country of Northern Wisconsin and a time period some forty years ago, he evokes a sense of displacement–not in the manner of sci-fi but simply offering a time and place that is at once familiar and foreign. The farm where the story is set has a mysterious aura, for the original settler built a wonderful home and barn and then for unknown reasons suddenly departed, selling the place from afar. Then Wroblewski adds a novel breed of dog and a voiceless boy to the mix–a boy who not only communicates non-verbally with the dogs but who also has a strangely believable connection to other spheres as well.

I won’t spoil the story by saying more than that. I’ll just conclude by saying Wroblewski is a fine and compelling story teller as attested to by the huge popularity of this book. I listened to the audiobook version and though it took a bit longer than usual to hook me, by the midway point I was fully invested in the characters’ lives and the intriguing narrative.

Check out GoodReads, and if you do, please invite me to be your friend.

Reading in the Castro

transparent_roseTonight I’ll be reading with fellow writer Kate Evans at Books Inc in the Castro.  I met Kate at a writer’s conference several years ago, and coincidentally our books were published in the same month last year. To learn more about Kate read the interview that I posted here on Editeyes about her book For the May Queen.

Readings are one way of promoting one’s book. Though most authors agree that you don’t sell a slew of books at a reading, one can hope they make the book more visible and then that viral thing happens . . . you know, a friend tells a friend who tells another friend. This post is one of those telling moments: check out Kate’s book at Amazon and buy it.

And while you are there, take a minute to write a review for Between Two Women. There is apparently a pretty good correlation between 5 star reviews and book sales. And if you are any where near San Francisco tonight (2/5), join us at Books Inc at 7:30.

Writer’s Critique Group–Guidelines

I’m a huge believer in the writer’s critique group. Near the end of my first writing workshop about 20 years ago, the facilitator talked about writing groups and encouraged us to hook up with one another to continue sharing and responding to one another’s work. During the workshop I had realized the merit of hearing a reader’s response, so I took the initiative to form a group. I’ve been a self-designated writing group coordinator ever since.

Admittedly, this can be a discouraging role as folks definitely ebb and flow in their commitment to belonging to a critique group. Life intervenes! People move away! A writer quits writing for a time. Another decide she needs to put all discretionary time toward the act of writing rather than using time for group work.

A writing group requires a time commitment, and I think that’s the biggest deterrent to ongoing participation. But for me, the dialogue and the feedback serve as motivation. And there is the deadline. Getting work ready for and submitted to the group in a timely fashion keeps me moving forward with my writing when I might otherwise let it slide.

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It also takes time to figure out workable guidelines. Having been a writing group coordinator for a long time, I also serve as the keeper of the guidelines . . . AND I have to admit, I think our critique group guidelines are terrific. Here they are:


Our protocol for responding to pieces is as follows:

 

  1. Readers come to group having read each piece in advance and prepared written commentary to offer the writer to supplement verbal critique.
  2. Readers discuss each piece for a predetermined amount of time while the writer listens and takes notes after which the writer is invited to participate.
  3. Readers discuss the piece saying the writer or the narrator or the writer’s name, but not using the pronoun you.
  4. Responses begin with what is working in the piece, specific places where language is exciting or full of energy, images that are sparkling, writing that is fluid, etc. Sufficient time should be given to discussing the merits of the piece before turning to critique.
  5. When pointing to places that don’t work well in a reader’s opinion, the reader is as specific as possible. We offer suggestions with the clear understanding that the writer ultimately decides what will work in her piece.
  6. Writers listen carefully to the opinion of others, recognizing that this is simply one opinion in many and that others, including the writer, may view the work differently. Writers take what is useful and leave the rest.
  7. Writers needn’t defend content, style, or word choice. Critique is simply meant to give one reader’s response. The impulse to defend comes from protectiveness around our work but can also be a signal that something deeper needs to be communicated on the page.

  8. We are not an emotional support group. Our discussions come from a writerly perspective. We agree that if a conflict among members arises it will be managed with honest self-examination and one-to-one communication as the first option and a separate full group business meeting as a last resort.


  9. We agree to keep our criticism fresh, focused, honest, and generous.

Next post, I’ll talk about bring a full lenght book to the critique group. Until then, put writing first,

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